Two Things

Whitney:
I'm going to write in response to the latest anonymous comment, and I'm going to talk about my date last night. (Three this week-- one more to go tomorrow.) I believe there will be numerous intersections between the two.

I don't have an answer for when the first tactile exchange should take place. Several early touchers I never saw after the first date. A few more early touchers I'd very much like to see again. There is no protocol. It happens in the presence of chemistry/tension, which signals mutual attraction.

So what's this "something more" you speak of? I'll dissect that to mean a non-one-nighter (as you mentioned, Anonymous), but not necessarily a let's-get-married-yesterday deal either. Something in between. And here I'll say that while the Wednesday guy tried to get right in there, despite the fact that I wasn't attracted to him, the Thursday night guy was attractive to me, and we drummed up some tension, thus I totally wanted to make out with him (and did!).

The pattern I'm finding is that guys want to get it on with you if they think you're cute. Online dating perpetuates the shopper's mentality, such that "something more" is a less likely scenario than "something (hottt?) right now". So depending on what you're up for, you could get some sweet action with virtually any date you go on. If you're a lady.

All I know is that right now I am interested in muscles, and kicking some sweet arse at my job. I'm very excited about my date tomorrow night, for the record. I'm totally going to touch him way too soon.