Up-Dates

Whitney: (again! Robert, this is a tale of TWO (2) Cuties!)

• I've had an interesting e-xchange with a man who wants a secret paramour in addition to his long term, open, "healthy" other relationship. While this arrangement has interesting potential, it's not my bag. But it hasn't stopped me from e-conversing with this strange specimen. After all, the poly-amorous are people too. I'd still be interested to know how he defines "healthy" though.
• Previously I detailed the event of running into a fellow-onliner by accident. This weekend said guy emailed me from nerve, asking if he'd seen me at the new museum opening. "Indeed you did", I told him. "Now what?" He wants to know.
• A sweet young thing (a 25-year-old doe-eyed Brooklyn artist) has been inquiring after my interest in meeting up with him. In so doing, he has revealed what I believe to be a prevalent attitude in the online stratosphere: That he's going to keep looking for that special someone, but said someone's specialness is rarely, if ever, SO special that they are immune to being usurped by someone newer, specialer, more exciting.

So I'm wondering: how is it possible to make that transition to a singular focus, especially in this very young, very attractive city? With an ever-present stream of people available at the tips of your fingers via the internet (and then add-in real-time communications like IM, and web cam), how can we stop looking? What kind of person would stop you?

My feeling is that it takes a solid conviction combined with discipline, a desire for simplicity, and a readiness for commitment that is difficult to come by in this rapid, frenzied, gushing world we live in. I'm sure there's even more to it than that. I myself am still navigating the limbo, so what do I know?

And then of course, there's the LOVE component. But that's private and unspeakable and doesn't fit in with my cool and removed exo-cyber-pragmatron persona, does it.

Hearts and kisses,

Whitney